Tuesday, December 16, 2008

One of the things I try, really hard, to do is to include Curtis anyway I can. It is almost a desperate kind of thing with me. I know I will never forget him, but I don't want anyone to forget him, or to think I have forgotten him. Or to think they can never mention him.
Christmas is a time I get a bit creative with including him. We do a memorial Christmas tree to him. It started in 2006, I was so disgusted with Christmas (and I am a pretty big Christmas freak so it was a hard time) that I didn't want to put up a tree. I had a small one from my apartment living days, so I out them up and just put a few ornaments on it that reminded me of Curtis. One I had made in support group, one my mom gave me with Curtis' name at the Angel of Hope ceremony...things of that nature.
Last year, I put back up our big tree, but decided to continue to put up the little one in memory of Curtis. A friend has sent me an ornament each year in memory of Curtis as well some I had bought for him. Plus, we have a "parents to be ornament" we got as a Christmas present in 2005.

Last year on our card I included the verbage "and Curtis, who we hold in our hearts" at the bottom above three pictures of our new little family and our names.
This year, in addition to 3 other pictures this one was included:


It just gives me the warmest fuzziest feelings. She loves this stone and is constantly patting at it.


This is our "Curtis" tree. I just love it. Claudia does too. It has twinkling white lights. She constantly points at it and tries to say "tree". What is funny is she pretty much ignores the big one which is in the same general location.


I do worry about the coming years and how I can include him and keep him in people's minds.

3 comments:

Hope's Mama said...

The photo of your little girl touching Curtis' stone is just precious.

gitz said...

When you commented on my blog and put the subtle "(now) three of us" it made me smile... if you wouldn't have put it in paranthesis I would have been thinking of it. Curtis is still a part of everything, as he should be.

Kim said...

I remember Curtis every time I hang our "Parents to Be" ornament b/c I know you have the exact same one. Love you.